Back in Izmir

My third trip to Turkey, and to Izmir, the first one without Nur. I feels  strange. I feels familiar. Nadiye met me at Izban station and when to her home.

Some legal stuff in the morning, then walked to the bay and sat to think. A voice said hope on a dolmus and go ‘home.’  I walked back and got the keys, took my 2.5 TL and went to stand in the street to hop on the minibus to Bornova, I looked out the window and watch the familiar and exotic scene. I saw the grocery store and knew it was my stop. I walked the 100 meters to Nur’s home, our home.

Should this be my home?

Will I be the last American to move to Turkey? I find so many friends and family it seems strange not to be here. Nur and I were going to travel more. Without her there is not as much of US to be seen. Once I have seen Yellowstone and Denali I’m done with north america.

Turkey has the challenge of being a new language and culture I have the gift of now being 1/2 into this world, I feels like a opening up of self ,to get out and see something new.  I wonder if I’m doing just what Nur did when Steve died? Leave the country. Only this time I’m going the other way.

So I’m trying this living in Turkey for a bit, Istanbul was great fun, but is so big. Izmir is easy for me to manage on my own. Airport Metro, izban, buses, dolmas , bike run — I’m fully mobile. The market, bakal , and restaurants all are within my capability. Basic communication is ok, Now can I navigate more difficult conversations and get to a point of have meaningful  dialog?

How does this compare with living in america, staying in Portland?

I know living it Turkey for a few years would be a much better story to tell.


The meaning of the dirty word

I was curious of the meaning of dirt FUCK word a long time. English was my second language, I was not sure this powerful word was a simple cuss or more than that. Dear Steve took his time and explained to me about 17 years ago. I guess today I like to share his well written explanation.

Perhaps one of the most interesting and colorful words in the English language today is the word “FUCK”. It is one magical word for which just by its sound can describe pain, pleasure, hurt, hate and love. Fuck, as most words in the English language takes its name from the German word “FRIDON” which means “WHOOPEE”.

In language, fuck falls into many grammatical categories, it can be used as a verb, both transitive (John fucked Mary) and intransitive (Mary was fucked by John). It can be an action verb (John gives a fuck), or as a passive verb (Mary really doesn’t give a fuck). It can be used as an adjective (Mary is fucking beautiful). As you can see, there are not too many words with the versatility of the word “FUCK”.

Besides its sexual connections, this lovely word can be used to describe many situations as represented in the following:

Fraud: I got fucked by my lawyer.
Trouble: I guess I’m fucked now.
Dismay: Oh fuck it!
Aggression: Fuck you!
Passive: Fuck me.
Confusion: What the fuck?
Philosophical: Who gives a fuck.
Displeasure: What the fuck is going on around here?

It can be used in descriptive anatomy: “He’s really a fucking asshole”.
It can used to tell time: “It’s fucking five thirty”.
It can be used in business: “How did I get this fucking job”?
It can be maternal: “Mother fucker”.
It can open the door to a wonderful relationship: “Let’s fuck baby”.
It can be used to enhance the meaning of a word: “Fucking beautiful”.

The mind fairly boggles at the many creative forms of use for this most functional work. How can anyone be offended when you say “FUCK”. Use it in your daily speech: It adds to your prestige…….

Tell someone today….”FUCK YOU”.

House Criteria

Hints For Realtor’s

Home criteria List:
Price range: Not too expensive, you know the numbers
Detached/Townhome/Condo – No condo
Number of bedrooms – 2 or 3
Living area square footage : Not less than 1200 sqft
Number of bathrooms: 1.5 – 2
Geographic area : Not in downtown
School district(s): Irrelevant
Age of home: Not older than 30 years ( unless well taking care of )
One story: Preferably, it is OK 2 stories
Lot type (corner/cul-de-sac): Does not matter
Number of garage: 1
Commute time to work : Does not matter
Screened porch / Lanai: Desirable
Fireplace (wood/gas): Prefer gas, if there is no fireplace does not matter
Exterior: Prefer Brick or Cement concrete
Community pool: Desirable
Golf course community: It does not matter
Direction house faces: Not important
Short-sale/foreclosure: Maybe
“Fixer-upper”: If it is in good location, yes
Flooring: Carpet or Hardwood, Tile: Prefer Tile in FL
Cooling: Central
Structure type: Bungalow is OK, townhouse is OK
Age Restricted Communities (55+) is OK

Wish List:
Neighborhood: Matters most
Walkability: Very important
Convenience to shopping: Important
Fenced yard: Desirable
Appliances: Prefer Gas stove
Deck or Lanai: Desirable
Storage shed: Desirable
Gated Community: Desirable
Garage/Storage space: Desirable
Jetted Tub: Desirable
County/City: In the city
HOA Dues: Not more than $100
Verizon Fios Available/High Speed Internet ready
Close to: Coffee shops, grocery stores, ( not shopping malls ) library, book stores, universities, bike trail, parks, must have sidewalks

Not Want:
Close to: Churches, Bars, Train stations, Strip malls, house on a hill
Structure type: Not a shotgun house, tiny house, high-rise condo